Things Will Get as Good as You Can Stand by Laura Doyle EPUB & PDF – eBook Details Online
- Status: Available for Free Download
- Author: Laura Doyle
- ISBN: 0743245156
- Language: English
- Genre: Marriage & Long-Term Relationships
- Format: PDF / EPUB
- Size: 2 MB
- Page: 288
- Price: Free
How I Discovered My Receiving
Muscles, and How You Can, Too
Maybe you don’t reject the things that you’re offered—or
perhaps you do so without realizing it. Make it your mission to
identify ways you might have rejected things that were offered
for your enjoyment. The world is an abundant place, so
anything we’re lacking in our lives very often reflects an area
where we aren’t yet receiving.
Notice if you feel guilty or anxious when someone
compliments you or tries to help you, but don’t mention it to
them.
When I’m trusting and being myself…everything in my life
reflects this by falling into place easily, often miraculously.
—S HAKTI GAWAIN
I Was Standing in My Own Way
TURNING DOWN OFFERS that were meant to delight me
hurt me in more ways than one. The guilt and control that were
stiffening my receiving muscles took the biggest toll on my
marriage. I didn’t recognize this until after one particularly
awful night. John announced that he was taking me out but
wouldn’t say where we were going. He said that he wanted to
give me a special treat and that I should just relax and enjoy
the surprise that was coming my way.
Unfortunately, I had no idea how to do that.
First I badgered John to tell me where we were going, but he
wouldn’t budge. When we arrived at a familiar restaurant, I
told him where to park so that we would be able to get out and
avoid the postdinner car congestion. Next I asked him if he
had enough money on him to cover the cost of dinner.
When John tried to pull out my chair for me, I ignored him and
pulled it out myself. When the bill came, I told John what I
thought he should leave for a tip. When we left the restaurant,
John tried to take me to the movies, but because the evening
had been out of my control, I was so anxious that I just wanted
to go home.
You can imagine the jerkiness of the evening. Every time John
did something, I put on the brakes. Being with me was like
driving a car that’s stuck in first gear. Far from being romantic
and fun, it was exhausting and stressful.
Unwittingly, I had sabotaged John’s efforts at creating a sweet,
intimate evening.
I’m embarrassed to admit that I had no idea how to just enjoy
myself while I was being treated to a night out. I couldn’t
stand not calling the shots. Being in control made me feel
secure.
And, being surprised—even pleasantly—made me anxious.
I Had the Kookiest Problem
AT HOME, I took a hot bath to soothe myself. Sitting in the
tub, I struggled to figure out why I couldn’t enjoy myself on a
night out with my husband. I tried to think of something
besides me that was wrong with the evening, but I couldn’t.
I was the problem. I realized then that if I ever wanted to have
intimacy with my husband—who loved me and wanted me to
be happy—I would have to learn to ride out the initial
discomfort of being in the spotlight.
For More Read Download This Book
EPUB