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- Author: Brianna Wiest
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THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU
THERE IS NOTHING HOLDING you back in life more than yourself.
If there is an ongoing gap between where you are and where you want to be
—and your efforts to close it are consistently met with your own resistance,
pain, and discomfort—self-sabotage is almost always at work.
On the surface, self-sabotage seems masochistic. It appears to be a product
of self-hatred, low confidence, or a lack of willpower. In reality, selfsabotage is simply the presence of an unconscious need that is being
fulfilled by the self-sabotaging behavior. To overcome this, we must go
through a process of deep psychological excavation. We must pinpoint the
traumatic event, release unprocessed emotions, find healthier ways to meet
our needs, reinvent our self-image, and develop principles such as
emotional intelligence and resilience.
It is no small task, and yet it is the work that all of us must do at one point
or another.
SELF-SABOTAGE IS NOT ALWAYS
OBVIOUS AT THE ONSET
When Carl Jung was a child, he fell on the ground in school and hit his
head. When he got hurt, he thought to himself: “Yes, maybe I won’t have to
go back to school now.”3
Though he is known today for his insightful body of work, he actually
didn’t like school or fit in well with his peers. Shortly after his accident,
Jung began experiencing sporadic and uncontrollable fainting spells. He
unconsciously developed what he would call a “neurosis” and ultimately
came to realize that all neuroses are “substitute[s] for legitimate suffering.”
In Jung’s case, he made an unconscious association between fainting and
getting out of school. He came to believe that the fainting spells were a
manifestation of his unconscious desire to get out of class, where he felt
uncomfortable and unhappy. Likewise, for many people, their fears and
attachments are very often just symptoms of deeper issues for which they
do not have any better way to cope.
SELF-SABOTAGE IS
A COPING MECHANISM
Self-sabotage is what happens when we refuse to consciously meet our
innermost needs, often because we do not believe we are capable of
handling them.
Sometimes, we sabotage our relationships because what we really want is to
find ourselves, though we are afraid to be alone. Sometimes, we sabotage
our professional success because what we really want is to create art, even
if it will make us seem less ambitious by society’s measures. Sometimes,
we sabotage our healing journey by psychoanalyzing our feelings, because
doing so ensures we avoid actually experiencing them. Sometimes, we
sabotage our self-talk because if we believed in ourselves, we’d feel free to
get back out in the world and take risks, and that would leave us vulnerable.
In the end, self-sabotage is very often just a maladaptive coping
mechanism, a way we give ourselves what we need without having to
actually address what that need is. But like any coping mechanism, it is just
that — a way to cope.
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